The big ticket items
Date to Dating: The Big ticket items – Marriage, Children and Monogamy
High class Gentleman attracting their High class Lady… going from first date to dating! Dating advice for men.
Questions around marriage, children and monogamy. Wow, if you can weave and pull this into the conversation on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd time you meet-up, she’s going to take note. You don’t want to present it in 3 quick fire questions and letting her know your answers and then asking her for hers. No, this is not the way to proceed. Maybe bring it up like this, you have some close friends that have just got married and marriage is important to you and you would like to get hitched one day too – of course only say it if it’s true!
We all prospect, & don’t even know we’re doing it. When you start the dating process, you are actually prospecting for the person you want to marry.
This is the more serious part of the conversation and needs to be said in a more serious tone and manner. Don’t make it humorous. This stuff is important and it’s important to her to know where you really stand on this. These are the big ticket items and will either break or make a longer term relationship, which is why you should be on this site and reading this!
They may seem pretty heavy to bring up in the 1st 2nd or 3rd time that you meet, but if your situation or your direction is different here, then maybe you should move on. That’s why they are so important to know about from the get-up and go. Some people call them the ‘non-negotiables‘, maybe you don’t have to tag them as such but they sure tell you about a persons values, what is important to them and what their direction is in life.
How do you size up marriage, monogamy and having children? What do you think about each of them? Are you prepared to discuss them?