First date – eye on the ball!
Date to Dating: First Date – eye on the ball!
High class Gentleman attracting their High class Lady… going from first date to dating! Meeting a lady for the first time in person.
So you’ve setup the first date, awesome! Now keep your cool and try to relax, as first impressions are incredibly important and you want to put your best version of ‘you’ forward to attract this leading lady.
For 5 game changers & tips for the first date, keep reading…
Number 1 – drinks and food
Buy her a drink! No excuses! You just need to do it on the 1st date. I’ve asked around girlfriends and it’s agreed, we wouldn’t give a guy a 2nd date if they didn’t buy the first drink. And it’s rarely around the cost of a glass of wine, it’s about saying, thanks for coming out this evening, thanks for taking the time to get ready and I appreciate that you are here.
It’s what a high-class gentleman does to attract a high-class lady!
Please, please wait until she has arrived before you start ordering food and tucking into it! I actually arrived once for a date, on time, and the guy was ½ way through eating his burger! I was like ‘really’, and was so close in saying a quick ‘hi’ and then ‘buy’, looking back I should’ve! Okay, you can get a drink or perhaps some chips beforehand but even this I would leave until she arrives. But if you just can’t wait, then limit it to this.
Number 2 – not BS
In the first meeting conversation she’s going to have her BS* (bullshit) monitor on. Don’t lie. You’ll only be found out afterwards anyway. Remember you want to attract a high class lady here. Tell it as it is, she’ll appreciate you more for it and you don’t have to keep-up any appearances, this is just exhausting too! I know a guy I met once told me that he was a Director but his line of work was in the Cleaning & Maintenance business, so he actually said ‘I don’t want to make it out as anything really glamorous’. I know I instantly thought, okay this guy is just telling it as it is and not trying to make himself out to be anything that he isn’t, I started to trust him there and then. Yah, for you!
I think, at the end of the day, age is just a number. It’s like, in real life, I’ve got friends who are dating someone their age or dating someone who’s twice their age, & they’re equally in love.
Number 3- jokes
You’re wanting to spark attraction, engagements and also banter. Keep jokes clean, it’s important! A guy I met once, besides having his day job also did stand-up comedy. He proceeded to tell me 2 of his all-time favorite gigs. I did not laugh at the first gig. In fact, I thought that’s really crude, you’re not the kind of guy that I would like to go out with and I wouldn’t want you around my family either. The 2nd gig telling story just reinforced that I wouldn’t be at all interested in seeing him again. Humor is very personal and I get it that some people will find somethings funny and others won’t. However, telling pretty low-ball and crude stories isn’t going to help and I’m pretty sure it isn’t going to attract that high-class caliber girl, it just won’t.
Number 4- clean banter
However, clean banter will. If you find it hard thinking on the spot what you can actually say, prep! Do so beforehand! Some stuff I get, you can only say or it only makes sense in the moment and the right scenario. However, if you go in with 5-10 potential banter scenarios or points, then you are going to be much better prepared to pull out one or two in the right moment.
If you can get her laughing or smiling, then you know you are on the right track!
Number 5- asking to see her again
Asking during the first date around ¾ through the evening, ‘hope it isn’t too soon to ask but I would really like to take you out for dinner next week, if that’s okay with you?’ Trust me, this is very hard to turn down, even if you are a bit ‘unsure’ of the guy. If it’s a ‘no’ to this question, then move on! If you would like to see her again, make it clear that you want this. This is really important as there’s a lot going on in first dates and sometimes even though a lady will like you, she might not be so sure what your first impressions are of her, so make it clear, I had a fun night and I like what I’ve seen and would like to see you again! There, it can’t be clearer than that.