After first date – kicking goals!
Date to Dating: After the First Date – kicking goals!
High class Gentleman attracting their High class Lady… going from first date to dating! What to do after the first date.
You sailed through the first date, you had fun, laughs, and there was a connection, great for you! You certainly want to see this lady again, so what next?
For 4 game changers and dating tips following the first date, keep reading…
Number 1 – how to ask for the next date
Okay, you might not have quite got there in asking in person about setting up a dinner date for the following week in the first date, but I hope you did! But say you didn’t, a clever way a guy has weaved in setting up a 2nd date is by text afterwards. Saying, ‘morning, thanks for the drink last night. It was lovely. Next time I’ll make sure there’s no trivia nights or giant bars. Just stools.’ He’s setting up the ‘expectation’ of the next date and letting me know he’s going to ask me out on another date. He’s not actually asking me directly there and then about meeting up again but he’s letting me know that he would like to take me out again and to get ready for his invitation. There’s something really nice about this, maybe it’s the ‘push & pull’ thing going on, it’s not forcing my hand there and then to say ‘yes’ to anything or to clear out my schedule for next week! It’s just letting me know that he’s interested and he will be asking me out again. Nice work, and the probability I’ll say ‘yes’ to this is very high!
Where would you take a lady on your second date?
I love a man with a great sense of humor & who is intelligent – a man who has a great smile. He has to make me laugh. I like a man who is ambitious & driven & who has a good heart & makes me feel safe.
I like a man who is very strong & independent & confident – that is very sexy – but at the same time he’s very kind to people.
Number 2 – when to ask for the next date
It’s important to show interest but not come on too strong! Remember high class ladies will have busy lives and schedules and coming on too strong is not attractive. High caliber woman value their independence and don’t want to be smothered! So let her breath! Asking to see her the following week or week after is fine, but again let her have a choice of days and times. This shows that you really want to see her but value her time.
Number 3- coming to collect her
Now offering to pick her up in your car! Either ask if you can offer to pick her up from her work place or home. It’s a chance to show off your car too. If evening, switch on the inside car light so you can be seen, even better is jumping out and opening the car door for her! She will notice and be impressed! So easy to do too!
Number 4 – the biggest of the game changers!
Questions around marriage, children and monogamy. Wow, if you can weave and pull this into the conversation on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd time you meet-up, she’s going to take note. You don’t want to present it in 3 quick fire questions and letting her know your answers and then asking her for hers. No, this is not the way to proceed. Maybe bring it up like this, you have some close friends that have just got married and marriage is important to you and you would like to get hitched one day too – of course only say it if it’s true! This is the more serious part of the conversation and needs to be said in a more serious tone and manner. Don’t make it humorous. This stuff is important and it’s important to her to know where you really stand on this. These are the big ticket items and will either break or make a longer term relationship, which is why you should be on this site and reading this!
They may seem pretty heavy to bring up in the 1st 2nd or 3rd time that you meet, but if your situation or your direction is different here, then maybe you should move on. That’s why they are so important to know about from the get-up and go. Some people call them the ‘non-negotiables‘, maybe you don’t have to tag them as such but they sure tell you about a persons values, what is important to them and what their direction is in life.
How do you size up marriage, monogamy and having children? What do you think about each of them? Are you prepared to discuss them?